Regarding the drug speculation:
While JD and Skippy were respectful enough not to fuel false claims of Harry’s drug problems, I understand that there were other platforms (like the comment sections of multiple news outlets) that allowed such malicious speculations to continue. While only Harry knows what he’s up to every day, allow me to prove with objective and logical evidence that he’s not abusing illicit substances.
Those who falsely accuse Harry of drug use seem to use a picture of his dilated pupils at a recent engagement and his noticeable weight loss as “proofs.” While it’s true that certain illegal drugs cause dilated pupils and/or weight loss, abductive reasoning cannot be applied in this case. For one, while illicit substances like marijuana and cocaine CAN cause dilated pupils, many other innocuous medications have the same effects. Allergy and cold medications like antihistamines, ADHD medication like methylphenidate, tricyclic antidepressant like Elavil are just some of the oral medications that can cause pupils to dilate. Besides oral medications, there are eye drops that dilate pupils called mydriatics. Mydriatics are often used in ophthalmologic exams like fundoscopy. I don’t know which was the case for Harry, but I do know that it’s a hasty judgment to accuse someone of drug use based on one picture of dilated pupils.
If there are those, who want to insist that Harry IS using illegal drugs, allow me to remind you: cocaine may cause weight loss, but marijuana causes WEIGHT GAIN. Therefore, if his enemies want to use weight loss in conjunction with his dilated pupils, they would be accusing him of cocaine abuse, which is far serious than cannabis use. With films like The Wolf of the Wall Street, even the general public is aware of the elites’ use and abuse of cocaine. While it is true that cocaine is an excellent stimulant and helps people under time crunch finish their jobs, it is quite ludicrous to suggest that Harry would feel tempted to use such substance often enough for its effect to show during a public engagement for the following reasons:
#1. Cocaine is not a cigarette. It’s a substance capable of inducing behavior changes. If Harry were a shy introvert suddenly displaying over-the-top behaviors, these false accusations might have some legitimacy; but from what I know, Harry was always someone who’s outgoing and friendly. Unless his enemies are trying to suggest that he’s been abusing cocaine for years (which doesn’t hold ground, because he only lost a noticeable amount of weight during his short “relationship” with Ms. Markle), his mannerisms don’t support cocaine use.
#2. Pupils are often compared to camera lenses; they control the amount of light that comes in. That’s why our pupils constrict under bright lights; remember the times you used to look up at the sun when you were young (and not so young)? Intense brightness prevents our eyes from focusing properly; therefore, having dilated pupils from medications or from routine exams can be extremely uncomfortable to the patients themselves. In fact, patients are warned after fundoscopy to refrain from performing activities that require concentration (e.g., driving) for several hours. If Harry’s a drug user, he must know that his pupils dilate or at least that he’s uncomfortable under bright lights while under the effect of such drugs. As Harry’s engagements are not impromptu (at least not to him), why would he use drugs right before an event that requires him being under bright flashlights from multiple cameras?
#3. If the critics are still unconvinced, let me remind them that Harry’s a fully grown man working at public functions; yes, public figures are capable of drug use. I do not deny that, but to suggest that people around him are ignorant of his changes in behaviors or alleged substance abuse would be naive. Contrary to the popular assumption that people around Harry are “yes men,” I somehow doubt that. Harry’s not a politician or a businessman; he has a family reputation to uphold, and people who work for him know that. If Harry fails, they’re the first ones to be fired; therefore, even if they weren’t loyal to him on a personal basis, their job performance depends on his, and they would feel obligated to make sure he didn’t do anything compromising at a public function.
There was a reason I felt compelled to write out logical arguments against a silly claim. Even if Harry’s not the one suffering from drug addictions, people are reading these articles who ARE. Harry might be able to waive off those mean-spirited comments by saying their accusations are false; but what about the real addicts reading them? Who can lessen the shame these suffers feel while reading those comments that are actually relevant to THEM? Addiction is not something to be ashamed of; it’s something to be solved. The only shameful thing about addiction is the OTHER’s inclination to turn it into something shameful. The dangers of drug addictions don’t just lie in the drugs themselves; it’s the ADDICTION part that makes them so fatal and heartbreaking. Yet it’s sad how the society places emphasis on “drug” part of this massive problem. You can be addicted to literally anything these days–this is what makes addictions so dangerous.
As a physician, it’s a routine part of history taking to ask the patients if they drink or smoke. If the answer to either one or both is an affirmation, I’m required to educate them on the dangers of excessive drinking and smoking however mild and advise them–no, tell them–to quit; however knowing that quite a few doctors are the worst of the worst hypocrites in these cases, I like to educate my patients this way instead: “As a doctor, I’m morally and ethically obligated to talk about the dangers of drinking excessively and/or smoking and advise you to quit; but with my white coat off, let’s admit it–you can get addicted to anything these days. I can’t force you to quit something you don’t want to; because even if I can get you to, you can easily get addicted to something else. What I will tell you is that its ADDICTION and loss of self-control that makes anything and everything dangerous. If and when you want help, I’ll be here.” Practicing this repertoire was more effective than I originally anticipated. Because my patients didn’t feel ashamed to come forward with their problems, they were much more compliant. Even though I wasn’t their family physician who followed their progress, I knew they were doing well.
Like I said, you can get addicted to anything–with Hollywood scandals and #metoo movement, more people than ever are aware of sex addictions, but you can get addicted to even the most innocuous things. For me, it was food, specifically carbohydrates–bread, pasta, cookies, you name it. No one really noticed it; at most, my friends thought I was gluttonous when it came to junk food; everyone thought I was OK because I’m always the one supposed to be OK. Wherever I am, whoever I’m with, I was always the one listening. I’m the happy one. I’m the empathetic one. I’m the agreeable one. I’m the easy-going one. I’m the one asking how people are, how their day went, and what they want. While I knew some cared to an extent, I knew many–if not all–would freak out if they knew just how broken I felt. Everyone, even my family, though I was living a privileged life–a “perfect” life as my former best friend put it–and the instant I made any complaint, I was lambasted by my closest loved ones as being ungrateful or being naive. I couldn’t tell anyone–not even my then-boyfriend whom I deeply loved. If I tried to break out of the mold they made for me, they would accuse someone else of changing me: my family and friends would accuse my then-boyfriend, and he would accuse them. None of them realized that they were all perpetrators in forcing me into this box of a cheerful little sweetheart. Because I didn’t have an outlet, I turned inwards–I ate. I had no other way; I couldn’t drink, because even without the time constraints, it would have been fatal to practice medicine while under the influence. I couldn’t smoke, because reputations matter in hospitals. But no one can begrudge a hungry med student or a doctor for stuffing cookies when they’re studying/working ungodly hours.
No matter how innocent it seemed, I knew what I was doing was wrong. I felt ashamed, so much so that I would eat only when I was alone in my dorm or at my studio apartment; funny thing is, at the time of compulsion, the post-consumption shame seemed negligible. Soon, the vicious cycle began: eating to waive off shame, then another bout of shame following eating. My boyfriend at the time didn’t help either; if anything, he fueled it by insisting that we go out for a meal every night; he would buy boxes full of cookies and sweets instead of jewelry and/or flowers, and this was another point I wanted to make: wrong people, no matter how good their intentions may have been, will aggravate the issues you have. Indeed, shortly after I broke up with him, I went out for a meal, and I remember being shocked at the realization that I couldn’t eat the salmon steak in front of me, because it reminded me of the times I went out to Japanese restaurants with him. Whatever wave of nostalgia I may have felt at the time soon dissipated when I realized the wide array of food I couldn’t eat anymore without thinking of him. That’s how much I depended on eating to handle my stress at that chapter in my life.
The reason I disclosed my own experience with addiction was to demonstrate that even the most seemingly competent people can suffer from it. Like I illustrated in the above, Harry’s not suffering from drug addictions; but even if he were, it’s extremely cruel, not just to him but to other suffers, to make derogatory comments regarding the matter. ANYONE can suffer from addictions. If you feel like you shouldn’t do it, but you find yourself doing it, and you keep repeating such behavior, it’s an addiction. Plain and simple. From eating to drinking to sex, there are no bounds when it comes to addictions. We should all realize its dangers in our society and support one another instead of berating a public figure based on an assumption and making real suffers feel ashamed.
-Roseberrycupcakes (RCC)~ the struggle of today’s stresses, instant information, looking for instant relief from stresses turn to a variety of therapeutic substances such as fool, street drugs or practices. We want our brain to release the dopamine to feel good again, I have the same as RCC, looking at carbs to help me crash. Carbs turn into sugar to help sustain the brain, too much makes you crash. RCC is smart enough, to associate certain foods with reminders of past painful encounters and not wanting to go there. To me, Peeps are like crack, keep them away from me they become my precious.
Thank you RCC, she is going to become a great Doctor, I’m so proud of her.